Pati Patni Ka Divya Vyvahaar

The book "Pati Patni Ka Divya Vyavahaar" (The Divine Conduct of Husband and Wife), authored by Dada Bhagwan and published by Mahavideh Foundation, offers profound spiritual insights into cultivating harmonious marital relationships. The central theme revolves around the concept of "Akram Vignan" (Non-linear Science of the Self), which, according to Dada Bhagwan, not only resolves conflicts between husband and wife but also eliminates disputes with the entire world, leading to liberation.

The book emphasizes creating a beautiful conduct within the home, fostering a deep appreciation for each other where the wife feels she has the best husband and the husband feels he has the best wife. This ideal state is achieved through the understanding and application of this spiritual science.

Dada Bhagwan, who attained self-realization in 1958, is presented as a fully realized Soul who has the ability to grant self-knowledge to others within hours through his unique "Gnna Siddh" (Knowledge Siddhi) or "Akram Marg" (Shortcut Path). He clarifies that the physical form, "A.M. Patel," is not Dada Bhagwan; rather, Dada Bhagwan is the pure Soul residing within, also present in everyone. He lived by the principle of "religion should be in business, not business in religion," never taking money from anyone and even financing pilgrimages for his devotees from his earnings.

The book's content is derived from Dada Bhagwan's discourses, compiled and edited into this accessible format. It addresses the thousands of questions posed by couples seeking solutions to their marital problems. The goal is to fill discordant married lives with divinity and reveal the secrets of an ideal marriage, leading to mutual reverence and a profound understanding of each other.

The introductory and editorial sections highlight the contrast between the natural harmony of earlier ages and the prevalent conflicts in the current Kali Yuga. It stresses that only a living Gnani (Enlightened being) can provide solutions in today's language for contemporary problems. The book aims to help readers develop a divine vision of their spouses, transforming their marital lives.

The book is structured into several chapters, covering various aspects of marital discord and their solutions:

• One Family: Emphasizing the importance of family unity, love, and adjustment, contrasting it with the concept of individual family members living separately.
• Home Conflicts: Discussing the origins and nature of conflicts within the home, the role of dissatisfaction with food (like salty curry), and the importance of peace over finding fault.
• Husband-Wife Differences: Exploring the root causes of disagreements, often stemming from ignorance of how to live and manage a family, and the importance of understanding "Adjust Everywhere."
• Mealtime Bickerings: Addressing the tendency to criticize minor issues like food preparation, highlighting the need for a mature approach and avoiding unnecessary arguments.
• Husband, Not Husband-ness: Delving into the expectation that a wife wants a husband's presence but not necessarily his controlling nature.
• Habit of Finding Fault in Others: Critiquing the tendency to point out others' mistakes, especially within marriage, and emphasizing the importance of self-correction.
• Hot Mood of the Car: Using the analogy of a car to explain how to handle a spouse's mood swings, suggesting a calm and understanding approach.
• To Correct or To Be Corrected: Posing the question of whether one should focus on correcting the spouse or on self-improvement.
• Common Sense to 'Adjust Everywhere': Reiterating the core principle of flexible adjustment in all situations and with everyone.
• Two Departments Separate: Advocating for clear boundaries regarding each spouse's responsibilities to avoid interference and conflict.
• Doubt Burns the Golden Lanka: Explaining how suspicion destroys marital bliss and the importance of trust.
• Husband's Faults: Addressing specific faults of husbands and how they contribute to marital disharmony.
• Follow Dada's Vision, Husbands...: Offering guidance to husbands from Dada Bhagwan's perspective.
• 'Mine-Mine' Entanglements Will Unravel Like This: Detailing how possessiveness and attachment create problems and how to overcome them.
• Identification of Paramatma Love: Defining true love as that which is selfless and unwavering.
• Marriage: 'Promise to Pay': Presenting marriage as a commitment and a continuous process of giving and understanding.
• Arguments with Wife: Advising on how to handle disagreements with one's wife.
• Wife Returns with a Measure: Discussing situations where the wife reciprocates actions, suggesting a balanced approach.
• Wife's Complaints: Addressing common complaints of wives and offering spiritual solutions.
• Consequences, of Divorce: Discussing the implications and negative outcomes of divorce.
• Essence of Saptapadi: Reflecting on the vows taken during marriage and their significance in the current context.
• Natural States of Husband and Wife: Explaining the natural tendencies and interactions between husband and wife.
• Subject Closed, There Love Relationship: Understanding that ceasing to dwell on contentious issues can foster love.
• Secret of Debt-Ties: Elucidating the karmic connections that bring people together in relationships.
• Ideal Conduct, in Life...: Summarizing the principles of ideal conduct for a fulfilling life.

The book also delves into practical advice, such as understanding the spouse's perspective, managing anger, the importance of forgiveness, and the role of spiritual practices in maintaining marital harmony. It emphasizes that true happiness in marriage comes from self-realization and understanding the nature of the Soul, which transcends marital roles. The teachings encourage a perspective of partnership, mutual respect, and unconditional love, aligning marital conduct with spiritual principles for overall well-being and eventual liberation.